A blog about emotions, relationships, and what shapes our lives

Perfectionism is often associated with high ambitions and a desire to do things well. Being conscientious, engaged, and eager to develop is not in itself a problem. On the contrary, these qualities can help us learn, create, and accomplish what matters to us. But perfectionism is not only about what we want to achieve. It may also concern what we fear will happen if we do not succeed. A mistake then becomes more than a mistake. It may feel like a sign that we are not competen

In my private practice, I meet clients who have previous therapy experience. They often have had 1-4 previous therapy contacts. Some...